One of my persistent fantasies used to be of sitting in the cafeteria or at the pavement shoppe in campus, almost everytime I'd be thinking stories or the philosophical treatise. I'd raise my eyes to watch the girls going by. I do same from time to time on the street leading to the theatre, amusement parks or even at the fantasy malls.
Certainly apart from the gals, married couples too become an attraction, cuddling each other, immersed in each other's soul, involved very much into their own hypothetical world. I particularly look at the woman. They all are not glamorous, not each one is Marilyn Monroes or Madhubala for that matter. Some pretty, some average, some no doubt just simple. Every other is own their way to the theatre, a concert, a get together or a workshop, may give you a conclusion that they are above average in the cultural literacy but in other respects they are like most - Just Average.
But to the man whose arm she is holding, she is not "Average" but a whole world to him.
As Lord said "It is not got for men to be alone, I'll make a helper fit for him, So made he a woman!"
He doesn't say that he made a pretty, witty or any kind an adjective woman, instead a basic woman.
Now a million Dollar question: Why this Basic woman is so valuable to man?
Three things.
First, She serves the man's needs to be needed.
In this cold world if no one needs you, what good are actually you? Employers, Scholars, readers, patients may say they need you but in such relationship you are always replaceable at some price. To this woman you are not replaceable, for this woman you are just one and no material in this world can ever be as important as you, which gives the man a self-esteem & energy to meet this apathetic world everyday.
Secondly she's a warm body in bed.
I don't refer to the sexual activity which indeed is important but referring to something even more primitive, something more important, more basic "Human Touch".
A baby crying in its crib doesn't want a conversation or a gold ring but to be held. Do we adults think that we are no more child? But a thought is merely a thought, it may be wrong as well, adults need this "human touch" also, cuddling each other for warmth & comfort in this indifferent cold world. A simple man and woman do that for each other.
Thirdly, she serves as an alternative to the man's self-within.
These couples may have been talking to each other for last 30 years or more with nothing left to say, yet they can talk on everything they've already talked about. They do brawl, yet the harmony in between is worth a sight. On a closer look if you observe, with age they behave not less than what kids do. Isn't it something that demands the grey matter some food to think? One thing that this man will seldom acknowldge is that he can't live without her, no matter how good are the conditions. It is this basic woman who still doesn't want it to be heard. In passing also, I would say that the first time Adam had a chance, he laid the blame on a woman but it is this basic woman who still continues keeping down the expectations with the years she face all this.
Its this woman who makes the man learn that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispostitions and not on our circumstances and we are here in this world for not to learn but to unlearn more. Yes every such women is a basic woman as basic as nature and its laws around us. For what is done or learned by one class of women becomes, by virtue of their common womanhood, the property of all women.
Certainly apart from the gals, married couples too become an attraction, cuddling each other, immersed in each other's soul, involved very much into their own hypothetical world. I particularly look at the woman. They all are not glamorous, not each one is Marilyn Monroes or Madhubala for that matter. Some pretty, some average, some no doubt just simple. Every other is own their way to the theatre, a concert, a get together or a workshop, may give you a conclusion that they are above average in the cultural literacy but in other respects they are like most - Just Average.
But to the man whose arm she is holding, she is not "Average" but a whole world to him.
As Lord said "It is not got for men to be alone, I'll make a helper fit for him, So made he a woman!"
He doesn't say that he made a pretty, witty or any kind an adjective woman, instead a basic woman.
Now a million Dollar question: Why this Basic woman is so valuable to man?
Three things.
First, She serves the man's needs to be needed.
In this cold world if no one needs you, what good are actually you? Employers, Scholars, readers, patients may say they need you but in such relationship you are always replaceable at some price. To this woman you are not replaceable, for this woman you are just one and no material in this world can ever be as important as you, which gives the man a self-esteem & energy to meet this apathetic world everyday.
Secondly she's a warm body in bed.
I don't refer to the sexual activity which indeed is important but referring to something even more primitive, something more important, more basic "Human Touch".
A baby crying in its crib doesn't want a conversation or a gold ring but to be held. Do we adults think that we are no more child? But a thought is merely a thought, it may be wrong as well, adults need this "human touch" also, cuddling each other for warmth & comfort in this indifferent cold world. A simple man and woman do that for each other.
Thirdly, she serves as an alternative to the man's self-within.
These couples may have been talking to each other for last 30 years or more with nothing left to say, yet they can talk on everything they've already talked about. They do brawl, yet the harmony in between is worth a sight. On a closer look if you observe, with age they behave not less than what kids do. Isn't it something that demands the grey matter some food to think? One thing that this man will seldom acknowldge is that he can't live without her, no matter how good are the conditions. It is this basic woman who still doesn't want it to be heard. In passing also, I would say that the first time Adam had a chance, he laid the blame on a woman but it is this basic woman who still continues keeping down the expectations with the years she face all this.
Its this woman who makes the man learn that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispostitions and not on our circumstances and we are here in this world for not to learn but to unlearn more. Yes every such women is a basic woman as basic as nature and its laws around us. For what is done or learned by one class of women becomes, by virtue of their common womanhood, the property of all women.
