It was yet another day and a yet another moment when I was entangled in the web of my own grey matter.
Whatever we talk, whatever we discuss, whatever we blame onto each other, the fact is, a person is important in relation to other person, in their usefulness, in the service they render to each other. Unless we understand that completely, we can expect nothing but one sort of misery or another.
How difficult it is to discuss the things when our entire language is the language of individualism.
We choose the people for our comfort and we call them friends. When we call them something, we also tend to associate them with the properties that this generic term has been idealized with. What we subconsciously do not want to accept is when these friends come; they bring their own World View (individuality) along. Every one of them strong enough to challenge every other one! If we also consider the fact that one meets mostly with the people of its own age group, then each world view happens to have the approx. the similar lifetime. As many friends that many world views!
But let us say my world view finds comfortable with another one’s. Can then it be assumed that this relationship will always result in happiness? Now the very definition of this worldview needs a serious insight.
Let us say I like eating ice-cream in the evening, this could fundamentally be termed as a simple thought or belief. Since this very thought was completely in my possession and it was never ever important to discuss it with anyone, this thought initially being in the rented room shifts the base to a permanent room. Now whenever I met this thought and shook my hand, I found this thought to be running very fine with its present state of health. And thus, this thought kept practicing its course whenever it was required to do so and it easily becomes my companion, I term them as buddy. And we already know by theory that a companion is someone who is frequently in the company of another. And the bond with this mere thought gets so strong that to resist this thought always results in pain. Now let us imagine the number of thoughts that would have actually passed through our mind at least once even, I believe that should not be less than something a scary figure. Since we already possess so many close buddies in our mind, they collectively determine the analysis that we do everyday as objectively as possible. These buddies make you feel comfortable sometimes and sometimes they just ditch you like anything. So basically if we see, they form a world within ourselves, which can easily be called as one’s individuality or the world view.
When this individuality is strongly governing us, isn’t it necessary to bring in the harmony among them and stop trying to blame each other in this so much of the virtual world. Isn’t it really necessary to nurture these thoughts in a flexible manner, so that the collisions with other’s world views can be absorbed with great effectiveness?
Am sure even though we understand the simplest of this logic behind we still will have relationships assisting misery and delight. We still will have fear and expectations, we still will have disappointments of life, we still will have incompatibility with others and we still will have this vicious circle of relationships. But can’t this thought itself be removed which connects a relationship with the misery at all?
This certainly gives a faintest of idea towards the truthness of the saying; One who knows himself knows everything.